As we have discussed previously, middle school is difficult. It is difficult because it is different. Students and parents undergo many changes-some of these are biological and very natural. Students who have adopted their parents view on life and defined their self-worth through their parents affection and support now look to others. In early adolescence, students begin to look to their peers for their self-esteem; though they still value their parent's involvement, now peers are competing for their attention. During this stage of life, students strive to fit into a social structure. They begin to figure out how to "get along" outside of the family unit. They determine what is cool to them and how to respond and react to people (both figures of authority and their peers). Middle school becomes the house for this natural life experiment to take place. It is because of these changes that middle schools tend to see behavior problems. Terms such as "bullying" and "drama" are introduced to parents and now they, along with their children, have to learn how to navigate this stage of life. Yes, this stage of life is challenging, especially for educators, as they try to help students cope with one another and learn new and more challenging concepts. The key in this journey for educators and parents is PARTNERSHIP! We need each others support and assistance as we help our students succeed academically and emotionally. Many parents ask, "What is my role at the middle school? How do I fit in?" "My child wanted me around in elementary school, now when they see me at school it feels different". This is very typical and, though your involvement may look and feel a little different in middle school, it is crucial to enable your student to succeed. Below are a couple of thoughts for how to partner with educators at DMS:
- Academic Accountability - Twice a week look at your students power school account, with them when possible.
- Communication- Email teachers regularly
- Teacher conferences- Schedule parent teacher conferences as needed
- Trust - Obviously this has to be earned but realize that we are in the business of education because we love children and want to see them grow and learn.
- Participate-encourage them to participate in extra curricular activities. Middle school is the time to explore and discover what makes them come alive. This is a great time to try different activities out!
- Attendance- Make sure that when your student can be here, they are here. Even if they do not participate in extra curricular activities, encourage them to attend and you attend with them.
- SUPPORT -We have a PTO that is growing! This is a crucial aspect of our school and is a very real way for how you as a parent can consistently get involved .